There are three sides to every story; His, hers and the truth... you may have heard some rumor or gossip that you take to heart and it may contain some volatile or upsetting information. But there is undoubtedly more to the story...

Loyal men, Honest men, don't get enough credit...

Talking about the past here for a min...being with a guy for years, a guy you thought would be your "ever after" A guy that at one point felt like home.. coming to a crossroads and having to make a life changing hard decision to cut him off/ calling it off for good!  Only to realize a couple of years later how badly he’s treating the new girl behind her back, it too... is painful, you kind of start reflecting on your relationship with the guy…
"oh gosh, was he that bad with me? behind my back too"? He’s a tricky one, he sure did trick me for a few years… I feel so bad for her, as do many others…(Information that has recently come to my attention/ and in numbers... Eeek:/ ). I guess ignorance is her form of bliss maybe? I don’t know, there are so many things that I shut my mouth about this guy, tampering what others think of someone you too love is a hard thing to talk about… it should be between you and that person your with end of story. So naturally it was hard when he would throw a pity party and tell things to people about me that were not even true so he could get sympathy after a fight we had? (buying me flowers didnt fix problems, did he think they were..." A fix all magical flowers"?...And then I was a ungrateful brat for still wanting to work through the problems???..flowers are not for fixing problems or making them disapper, talking it over is... flowers after talking would be a sweet touch, just sayin! :)  (((that was a hard thing to deal with… very hard for me.)))  Its hard sometimes to glance over and see the same things happening, very heart breaking, You just kind of stop wanting to know and the better thing the healthy thing is really all together letting it go, its no longer your concern (youre free) …although "letting go"  in all reality isn't as easy as it sounds, It's a process of time, effort and patience with out rush, But that moment will come when your honestly ready, and in that moment you feel peace. It takes a strong person to break habits, a strong person to really go through with making a better change... but it is possible, possible when the gospel is present in your life... One that I waited to see in him, But never came,  It was more like an ongoing pattern…You see, some learn the hard way…that you can never change another, change comes from within, No matter how much you love them, sometimes you Have to leave to stir things up in their life BIG enough that a change will happen... crossing your fingers that this big change will be won over by the good and not the bad... unfortunately its looks like a standstill and really mouth dropping how bad things can be behind someone’s back ( and a back Supposedly you love???) ...sad but feeling like I made the right decision 110 percent... it’s like a bitter sweet Lucky type feeling… grateful! followed my gut... hard hard hard, but as time has passed, feelings /emotions have become crystal clear... I wasn’t the one who needed to get help I was the one who needed to leave so that he could realize he does. Just so sad he still doesn’t see the big picture and even more sad to see a relationship filled with so much dishonesty. No one deserves that… no one… I don’t believe in bad people, just people who are lost… and some stay lost..

Loyal men, Honest men, don't get enough credit...(lucky for me, my following relationship was healthy, Bright, loving and honest very honest, made all the difference! I will always love and adore him for helping me heal, I was so happy real happy with him, a happy I dont think was ever felt before... things didn’t work with him cause of stages of life, and thats ok..respect and love still exist there! very grateful for him! probably more than he will ever know! )

Sometimes even the red flags are waving right in front of your face, But you close your eyes cause you just want it to disappear or go away…


So Live with your eyes Shut or Open, you decide!  

I choose open! :)

know what you deserve...